I’m back blogging…struggled to get much done this year due to a lot of work commitments and getting married in the summer which took up lots of planning time.
Anyway…good to be back…I’m just letting you know that I am stepping out into the public arena to speak at a couple of events in October…so if you like my blog posts you can hear me live at these events. I will be speaking at the Cumbria Coaches Network, Change Fest on October 18th, at Brathay, Ambleside as well as the Change Camp at the Gosforth Academy, Gosforth on the 23rd October.
For more information please visit: http://www.cumbriacoaching.net/#category14 and also http://www.changecamp.co.uk
My subject-the psycho spiritual process of change….only have an hour and a quarter to simplify a very complex process! Here’s a few snippets to wet your appetite…
Why is change difficult? Well, the brain doesn’t like it….it has a hard time establishing new neural nets. Learn how to help it do this…
Why do people struggle to turn intention to action? The amygdala sabotages the intent and hijacks the will so that it can not do what it wants ….which sounds like Romans 7:11 where Paul says…the power of sin keeps sabotaging my best intentions, I obviously need help! I realise that I don’t have what it takes, I can will it, but I can’t do it. I decide to do good, but I don’t really do it; I decide not to do bad, but then I do it anyway. My decisions, such as they are, don’t result in actions. Something has gone wrong deep within me and gets the better of me every time.
Why is vision important? You need to be able to ‘see’ or ‘imagine’ what the change looks like? What is it you want to become? ….Well if your a Christian, it’s got to be Christlike-your true and authentic self but if you don’t have that vision it might be your best self, living your principles and values.
Why is Change just as much about the Human Spirit (spirituality)as the mind will and emotions (the psychological side)?
…Because spirituality is about finding your true self, your uniqueness and specialness…your I am’ness and this has to be rooted in something that is bigger than yourself. From a Christian worldview that’s being rooted and grounded securely in the love of God, which through faith in Christ, God graciously effects in us (progressively) by the indwelling presence of Jesus, through the Holy Spirit. We become Christ Centred, and take on his character and live accordingly.
Outside of this though…people may try to live to their higher principles and values, (they become principle centred to use Stephen Coveys terms) and through self effort and lots of mindfulness be able to manage themselves and their reactions more effectively than they could before. For us in Christ, the glorious hope is that we can be free from ‘sin’ or if you like the patterns of thinking, feeling and acting that come out of an I am’ness that has sought to find significance, security and worth in a whole host of things other than God. Coming home to the Father and knowing we are loved brings a spiritual wholeness from which the psyche (mind, will and emotions) can start to mirror.
Not sure yet…how I will present this stuff in a largely secular context…but I’m going to be looking at what neuroscience tells us now about the structural changes that have to happen in the brain if change is to happen, make a link to John of the Cross who talked about structural transformation when he was around 600 years ago!. Also, science is now verifying that all behaviour is emotional and so getting a handle on the limbic brain and the amygdala will be in there especially as I look at the role and effect of silence and contemplation on the emotional brain….I think this is so exciting….I have experienced it’s effects personally in my own healing journey…..prayer, silence, solitude, calms the amygdala so that it is not triggering you into actions that are rooted in fear states and instead we start to act out of secure attachment emotions…excitement/joy trust/love because we know we are securely attached to the Father. Now I can carry out my intentions more effectively because my will has detached from the things that prevented it carrying out a course of action.
So, for me its Christ-Centred Spirituality all the way because my experience of it working to transform me is so powerful. It does what it says on the tin…so to speak… Other spiritualities may work towards it but I’m not sure they deliver the same results. I guess it has to be tasted and tried for people to assess the difference themselves..
Maybe I’ll see you there…if not…I’ll post to tell you how it went.